Well for those of you that want to know why I chose to have this surgery, let me give you a few of my main reasons. First, I think I was the perfect candidate for this surgery because of my weight history. I have been overweight since I was five years old and when I was in fifth grade I weighed over 160lbs! So my mother (rest in peace) thinking she was doing me a favor put me on Jenny Craig, and guess what she made me a life time member! Yay me, NOT! That right there scarred me for life. I did however get down to 135lbs, which made my mother very proud. I love my mother very much dont get me wrong but we are not all perfect. Anyway I struggled with my weight all through school and had to endure being made fun of on a daily basis. (Not fun). When I was in eighth grade my mother passed away and eight months later my house burned down in a freak accident that took my father's life. Now I was really a wreck emotionally and went to live with my sister who was 10 years older than me and had a family. Those years were rocky at first and then they were good. Well in college I caught on to the whole phentermine thing and I lost a lot of weight and I looked good, for a couple years (like 3). Then I got married and got pregnant and I gained all my weight back plus some. I gained 80lbs during that pregnancy, I know that is quite horrid. I delivered my first adorable son and was left weighing in at 230lbs. After that I lost some weight again and probably got back into the high 180's but then I started to let myself go again (not to mention I was getting older). By the time I noticed my weight again, I was really wanting another baby. Having another baby turned out to be harder than it was the first time (since I was not trying the first time!), I ended up having a series of miscarriages and an eggtopic pregnancy that almost killed me since it ruptured internally. Needless to say I was a mess for a while after that, we were even trying to adopt a baby so my Danny who was already 4 could have a sibling, but no one wanted to give us a baby and that took its toll on me and my hubby. Finally I prayed to God and asked him to please cause chaos in the adoption process if this was not what he wanted for me and my family. I told Him that I would still LOVE him even if I never had another baby. I also promised that if I did have another baby and it was a boy that I would name him Isaac(inspired by the story of Abraham and Isaac). Low and behold, the adoption office in my town shutdown that week! (God answers prayers). They told us we could go to an office in Oakland which was a good ways away from our home so we just quit because I had my sign, this was not for us. The next month I was pregnant and I knew from day one that it would be a boy and it was. ( I know I am getting way off topic here but now I just want to vent a little). After I had Isaac I was determined to lose the weight and I joined a weight loss challenge put on by herbalife. I did good but I somehow found my way back to the weight loss drug phentermine....( I know, that is bad). I was feeling good though I got all the way down to 147lbs at one point!! I even ran a half marathon and kept the weight off for about 3 years. After that my life took another turn for the worse (ALOT of family drama I cannot discuss) I had so much stress and financial problems that I found myself in old habits again. I found myself back at 190lbs in no time at all. I went back to school to try to help our financial situation and 3 months later I was blessed (did not feel that way at first) with another pregnancy and another beautiful baby boy, Joseph. That pregnancy left me at 225lbs once again and I was miserable and embarrassed. That is when I found out about my friend who had had bypass and been very successful so I started learning everything I could about Weight loss surgery. Once I figured out who to talk to it only took me a couple of months to get approved and get a surgery date. I figured I needed something that hopefully will be permanent because I was tired of the up and down because it was so emotionally draining. Also this is my life! and I only get one and I wanted to do this so so badly and I knew if I did not do it that would have always wished I had. So I took the plunge and did it. Yes I am afraid of what people will say, very afraid. Yes I am afraid I will fail and gain it all back, but then again I have done that many times before, this way at least I will not regret not having given it a try. My surgery was completely covered by Kaiser and my copay on surgery day was only $20! So I took a few days off work, had to endure some pain, and really pissed off my hubby but all in all I did not loose much in going ahead with the surgery. In the end, it is my body and I can do with it whatever I want. I really feel like this is a new start for me and I hope this is the beginning of a whole new me forever!
4.5 weeks postOP and down 21.5lbs.
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